Anything you think you need "out there," the actual source of it is inside of you: love, worth, respect, validation, safety, happiness, you name it.
How do I truly know this for myself?
Try over and over again to sustainably find one of the above via external acquisition such as money, success, sex, romance, food, diets, workouts, houses, cars, stuff, medication, lawsuits, arguments, likes and follows. Evidence gathered? Next:
How do I find it inside of me?
Meditate, daily.
Engage in insight oriented therapy, if you have access to it and/or find a mentor/coach/teacher.
Listen to and read tons of mental, emotional and spiritual growth material.
Journal regularly.
Cleanse and heal the body temple.
And not merely one of the above, all of the above.
Let’s say I find what I need inside of me, what then?
Now that you are no longer fruitlessly looking for fulfillment from the world, you can bring your fulfillment to the world, via your relationships, work, and art.
How do I make other people understand?
You don’t. You do you. They’ll notice. They’ll inquire. You’ll respond accordingly.
Summary:
What you’re looking for, is what you're looking with.
All of my love. Aloha, Wade.
Wade Robson, based on his personal experience of external wins and internal losses, explores our personal definitions of WINNING and their implications.